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Self-Observation: Seeing the Lighthouse Signal


Materials:  Dedicated notebook & pen

Time:  5 – 10 minutes at the end of the day

Duration:  Perform this self-observation each evening for one to three months


What are you looking for?

Notice anything that strikes you as odd, funny, painful, beautiful, aggravating – anything that has the weight to move you. For example:

  • Signs:  gestures, indications, suggestions, warnings
  • Symbols:  numbers, animals, logos, characters, marks, icons, colors
  • Words & Phrases:  individual words you or others use frequently; suggestions, requests, compliments, admonishments or rants you make or others make about you; things that strike you while reading, watching a move, television or the theater
  • Events: moments or episodes that move you, altercations, interactions

Self-Observation Questions

Find a quiet space where you can sit undisturbed with your pen and notebook each evening. Reflect on your day and ask yourself the following questions:

What clues struck a strong chord with me today? Write each one in a numbered list. Then answer the following for each clue:

  • How did I feel when it happened? What emotions were triggered?
  • Where did I literally feel those emotions in my body?
  • What does the clue mean to me?
  • What actions might I take now that I have this information?

When a clue is repeated on more than one day, check in with yourself to see if it affected you differently than it did the last time. See what additional nuances you can mine from repeated clues.  And as with anything, the more dedicated you are to your self-observation, the more rewards you will receive.  Get creative and enjoy yourself!

5 Comments Post a comment
  1. Hi Kassie 🙂 So glad I found your site. Cant wait to read all your blogs and look at ur site.. Miss you! Hope everything is going great for you.

    March 16, 2012
    • Hi Shar,
      Thanks for visiting! I hope you’ll share some of your stories with us along the way. Hope everything is going well at the beach.

      March 20, 2012
  2. This whole site is a treasure trove of wonderful insights and exercises, Kassie! I can’t wait to do the 90 year old me exercise. Just framing the question that way (how will you look back on your life) shifted things for me. Thank you.

    Also, I just have to say, I don’t think you were only shuffling stacks of blocks back and forth. I don’t believe a moment of your life/time has been wasted. Perhaps a cocoon stage, but not wasted. You are a great teacher.
    Love, Nerissa

    March 21, 2012
    • Thanks Nerissa. You are right – not a moment of my life or anyone’s life is ‘wasted’. It is the sculptor chiseling her stone into the beautiful form it will become. But at times the tool cuts so deep its almost unbearable, at others, just a gentle loofa polish. (and, the block stacking may be just as valuable as the deep self healing work!)
      You too are a great teacher! Thank you for your inspiration.

      March 23, 2012

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