Self-Observation: Seeing the Lighthouse Signal
Materials: Dedicated notebook & pen
Time: 5 – 10 minutes at the end of the day
Duration: Perform this self-observation each evening for one to three months
What are you looking for?
Notice anything that strikes you as odd, funny, painful, beautiful, aggravating – anything that has the weight to move you. For example:
- Signs: gestures, indications, suggestions, warnings
- Symbols: numbers, animals, logos, characters, marks, icons, colors
- Words & Phrases: individual words you or others use frequently; suggestions, requests, compliments, admonishments or rants you make or others make about you; things that strike you while reading, watching a move, television or the theater
- Events: moments or episodes that move you, altercations, interactions
Find a quiet space where you can sit undisturbed with your pen and notebook each evening. Reflect on your day and ask yourself the following questions:
What clues struck a strong chord with me today? Write each one in a numbered list. Then answer the following for each clue:
- How did I feel when it happened? What emotions were triggered?
- Where did I literally feel those emotions in my body?
- What does the clue mean to me?
- What actions might I take now that I have this information?
When a clue is repeated on more than one day, check in with yourself to see if it affected you differently than it did the last time. See what additional nuances you can mine from repeated clues. And as with anything, the more dedicated you are to your self-observation, the more rewards you will receive. Get creative and enjoy yourself!